Things You Keep in Mind Before Having Swinger Relationships in Swinger Group

Normally, a swinger relationship is carried out discreetly because of the taboos that our society still has about the exchange of partners or open relationships. The shame of what people will say but at the same time the excitement for an adventure outside the couple's relationship leads us to meet swinger couples.

Swingers or partner swapping consists of exchanging partners during certain encounters. In a swinger party, first of all, we must take into account that it is not necessary that a couple or marriage exchanges sexual pleasures with another, but there are different variants. It can be with another couple, in a trio, only with caresses, or with others looking at the couple's own relationship. Each swinger couple decides how far to take the relationship or not, always by mutual agreement between the two and the third parties involved, with the utmost respect for the limits previously established between those who participate in this sexual encounter.

Maybe you are thinking about trying it and you have doubts, and one of the first questions that come to your mind is "What if he likes what they do to him more than what he has with me?". In that case, you must have a very clear separation from your stability as a couple, that it is an adventure, a sexual game where the goal is to enjoy, not to have a sentimental involvement as is your case as a stable couple. The main rules in the exchange of partners that we must be clear about in order not to have emotional repercussions later on are:

1. Can we all be swingers?

Swingers are for sexually healthy couples, that is, couples who have a rich sex life, who play with their fantasies, who don't have to hide to watch porn, and who feel comfortable enough with each other to go a step further. I mean, if you haven't had sex with your partner for a year, you can't say 'let's be swingers'. Getting into this world with the idea of doing something daring to save a couple in crisis is the worst remedy they can come up with because here you need a lot of communication to avoid having a bad time.

2. What if one of you wants to try and the other doesn't?

Another golden rule is not to pressure anyone and that includes your partner. There are men who arrive without telling their wives where they are going. They think that because they had a few drinks and the idea came up, that's enough. The problem is that when they arrive at a club they find that the woman no longer wants to and everything ends badly, often with crying and arguments. When someone feels free of pressure and with the security of going at her own pace, she is encouraged to experiment because she has the peace of mind of knowing that her partner will not leave her adrift if she doesn't like something. For us, this care with our partners is fundamental because among women the idea of group sex appears as something very questioned: 'How can it be, if you take your children to school?

3. Can someone who is jealous be a swinger?

That is why it is very important to be well-informed beforehand. One of the questions that often arise, especially from the women's side is: what if he ends up liking her more than me? For that not to happen, both have to have the same motivation, which is to enjoy. But if one occupies the hegemonic place in the couple and the other goes to please him and not lose him, it is likely that unbearable jealousy will appear and that one will be delighted and the other will be left watching from the outside, cold, how his partner enjoys with another person. There is another important rule: when the encounter takes place, it is important not to show too much praise and excessive desire toward someone of the other partner. My suggestion is not to talk too much. Let no one become a threat to the partner.

4. What happens if someone from one couple becomes romantically involved with a member of the other?

Swinging requires stable couples. Therefore, one of the rules is to avoid any attitude that may threaten this stability. For example, giving any of the members romantic gifts, such as flowers, jewelry, or chocolates.

5. How do you take the first steps?

One of the keys to avoiding bad times is knowing where everyone fits in. For example, there are the soft couples (which at our parties we identify with yellow bracelets) who do everything but have penetrative sex: they can just look at each other or they can also touch, kiss, and even have oral sex. In the full couples (with red bracelets) you can exchange with penetration. There is also the switch (with green bracelets) that may or may not accept penetration in their encounters. And there are the solos, which we call 'third parties' (blue bracelets), who go to the meetings because many couples are not looking for couples but for threesomes.

6. What about kissing?

There are couples who agree not to kiss on the mouth because that is an act of romantic connotation and prefer to keep it for the two of them. The rule among those who do is that kissing has to be in the context of sexual intercourse. This means they can't continue kissing when they put their clothes on.

7. What about orgasms?

Men usually delay orgasm so as not to be left out of the game during the exchange. But then we save it for our partner, either to finish the encounter with her or to finish it later, at home. Women, on the other hand, seek orgasm more during the exchange. The secret is not to depend on orgasm to have a good time because the other partner, at least at the beginning, does not know what we like.

8. When two couples get together: is it mandatory for everyone to have sex with everyone?

In this environment, the interaction between man and man is forbidden. Interaction between two girls is allowed. The standard swinger is between heterosexual couples and in this standard, the erotic play happens more between women. For example, there is a modality called blizz: couples go to clubs where women play with each other and men only watch.

9. Once you have entered the swinger world, can you tell people openly?

One of the swinger groups' commandments is to not talk about the swinger lifestyle with anyone who has not expressed interest. The reason is that if we tell a couple of friends and they are shocked, they will infer that other mutual friends are also swingers and we are forcing them to come out of the closet. Also, if you tell a couple of friends and one gets hooked on the idea of trying it and the other doesn't, you're causing them relationship problems they didn't seek.

10. Aren't these a lot of rules?

People think we have sex with anyone but we are talking about our partners, the mothers and fathers of our children. For it to work, the rules have to be very strict.

Conclusion

We must clarify that there are always nuances and small differences between couples who are within this world, and there are even the so-called swingles, which are the singles who are within the swinger environment and go to their parties and meet other couples sporadically because they share their way of living sexuality. Swingles can sometimes be the unicorns of a couple, that person who is willing to please both without getting involved at all.

Nothing more for today, we hope all this information has been useful for you!